We don't see the world as it is - we see it as we are and as we feel.
If you feel good about yourself, you see the world as a reflection of that. If you are insecure and lack confidence with your life, then you will find events and surround yourself with people that validate those feelings too.
So, if you want to change the world, you can try to change everyone and everything around you - or you can change yourself and see everyone and everything around you change too.
I don't care how objective you try to be - what you experience - happiness, sadness, anger, jealousy, wraith, joy, pride and even love, isn't just black and white truth - it's a reflection of who you are, how you think, how you live, what you do, and even where you live.
A Personal Reminder
Last month, I was reminded of this idea once again - in my own life. A couple events occurred in my life that shook my confidence and rocked the foundation of my life.
The funny thing is that the events were not that big of a deal. In fact, as I look back they were completely foreseeable and almost silly. So they shouldn't have impacted me at all. But at the time, I was doubting some things in my own heart. And when the events happened, it reflected back what I was already feeling - and they were nearly crippling.
Had these events occurred the month before or even this month, they would have hardly impacted me at all - had I even noticed them. But when I was feeling a little insecure about a couple things in my life, my subconscious was looking for validation of those insecurities. And of course, it found the validation - as it ALWAYS will.
You Can Choose The Feelings You Want Validated
Everyday, there are things that will happen around you that will validate nearly anything and everything you want to feel. If you feel pretty, you will find validation. If you don't, you will find that too. Smart, dumb, fun, angry - anything you feel, your subconscious will validate for you - it will find (or create) validation to perpetuate the feelings you are experiencing about yourself.
The funny thing is that validation doesn't always come from where we thought, or hoped, it would. That can cause anxiety. But it shouldn't, because it isn't about the others around us, it's about us. It's our subconscious looking to make you feel safe in how you are feeling by validating your thoughts. Accept it - it is what it is, a reflection of you, not the people around you.
So rather than looking for validation of what you want to believe about yourself - behave and feel what you want to feel about yourself first.
Be the person you want to be, and the feelings will follow. And where the feeling lie, so lies your filter - and inevitably, validation for your feelings.
Be confident, and you will feel confident - and find validation for your confidence.
Be happy and you will feel happy - and you will see happiness all around you - validating and expanding your own happiness.
Love and you will feel love - and without a doubt, you will see love all around you.
YOU have the ultimate power over YOUR LIFE, over the world within which YOU LIVE. You can choose how you feel and what you surround yourself with - happiness, sadness, love, or anger, simply by choosing to behave in a manner that reflects those feelings.
And most importantly, you will not only will you change yourself, but you will change the world around you.
**** But here is a quick warning . . . the feelings you want to validate must be real, not made up or faked, or the validation you find will feel just as insincere as the feelings you are trying to validate.