Friday, July 24, 2009

But What If I Don't Want To Change?

Have you ever heard anyone say those words?

Funny thing is, as a coach, talking to perspective clients, I hear them a lot.

Have you ever said those words yourself?

And tell yourself that your life is perfect . . . just the way it is. You don't want anything to change anything.

That would be great if life worked that way. But unfortunately it doesn't. And to be completely frank, you have a better chance of winning the lottery tomorrow than keeping your life the same as it is today . . . for even one more day.

Change Is Inevitable

We've all heard the phrase from Greek Philosopher, Heraclitus,

No man ever steps in the same river twice,
for it's not the same river and he's not the same man.

Even if YOU don't change, the rest of the world is changing around you - meaning that in relation to everyone and everything else, nothing is constant.

So once you finally get past the inevitability of change in your life and your business, it's time to come to realization that there are really only two options . . . you are either growing and getting better or you are shrinking and getting worse.

Your choice is simple, either make the choice of making it better . . . or have it change on it's own, with little or no input from you - often times in the wrong direction.

Define Where You Want To Go Or End Up Where The World Takes You

So, now that you realize (or at least are beginning to accept the possibility) that change is inevitable and the best way to manage it is make the choice to improve your life rather than just let life happen, what are you supposed to do about it?

How do I figure out "what is an improvement?" And what is the wrong way?

You might think that improvements in life are "universal". We all want the same things, right?

Well to be honest, nothing could be further from the truth - no two people completely want the same thing, even though they may be on the same path for most issues. Some people want money, few want adulation, while even others seek quiet and solitude. And as it turns out, what will make YOUR life better . . . is about as unique as your fingerprint.

Needless to say, if you want to change for the better, then YOU have to define "Better" - NO ONE ELSE. You can involve others, your spouse, your kids, and your friends, but the decision is actually yours and yours alone.

You have to figure out what you want, where you want to be, and what want your life to be about, in order to make it happen.

In essence, you have to define your vision!

And then, of course, you have to make the change happen towards your vision, rather than just letting it happen, in whatever direction it wants to take you.

And that is where the real fun begins. . .

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